How do I make this kitchen look more up to date?! (see the pics)?

This picture is from Christmas so sorry about that…but you get the idea-the cabinets are out of date…oven is white for some reason…I just want to do something to make it look better! Haven’t lived here very long so I’m still working on making it my own…something simple but cozy, shabby chic…but I don’t want to spend a ton of money. Any great decorating ideas? Thanks!

Kitchen

Also-here’s my fireplace-I don’t know why it’s partly painted…do you think I should just paint all the wood black? It just doesn’t look right to me..

Fireplace
by the way…..the microwave is black and stainless and the walls are not white, they are a light brown/tan (cafe color) If i paint the cabinets, what color?

Are there rules when re-doing furniture for shabby chic look?

I’m getting ready to re-do several pieces of furniture to a shabby chic look. I have a few questions…

1) do the peices need to be white or can they be done in pastel pinks, greens, or blues?

2) Does it matter what color the base coat is underneath? I mean I know it should be dark. But, does it matter if it is a brown or a blue or a red? Should all pieces be done with the same base coat?

3) Should peices be done in a gloss finish or flat?

4) where can I find wood embellishments? I have tried home depot and lowes but they don’t seem to have any? Would michaels or hobby lobby?

5) What can I do to integrate my Big Screen tv into this look? I really need some ideas here

6) What colors should the walls be? I was thinking of a light taupe or beige with white moulding and trim?

7) should I distress the trim in the room or keep it looking new and polished?

Any other tips, websites, ideas would be great appreciated! BTW, I guess this would be a vintage rose shabby chic look…I have tons of rose things that I have collelcted over the years. That is why I decided to go with shabby chic look.